让生活变得更好的几个思维转换｜How to Worry Less and Live Better

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What would you do if you were the most powerful person in the world?

Would you chase money, fame, or pleasure? Marcus Aurelius, a Roman emperor from 2,000 years ago, didn’t. Instead, he followed a simple but powerful philosophy: Stoicism — a way of thinking that helps people stay calm, strong, and wise no matter what life throws at them.

🌍 The World vs. What You Can Control

Marcus believed one important truth: there are some things you can control, and some you can't. You can control your thoughts, your actions, your attitude. You can’t control the weather, what other people do, or the past.

When we forget this, life becomes painful. We get upset over things we can't change — like failing a test even after trying hard, or a friend being in a bad mood.

But what if we focused only on what we can control? Like trying our best, learning from mistakes, or staying kind? Suddenly, life feels lighter.

🔮 Worrying About the Future

We often worry about what might happen:

“What if I fail?”“What if people don’t like me?”

Marcus said, don’t let the future scare you. When the future comes, you’ll deal with it using the same strength and wisdom you have today. So don’t let your imagination make you suffer twice.

🕰️ Stuck in the Past

Do you ever replay mistakes or wish you could go back and change something? Marcus said: You can’t change the past, but you can decide what to learn from it. 

Instead of asking “Why did that happen?”, ask: “How can I grow from it?”

That’s what makes you powerful.

⏳ The Present is All You Have

The only time you truly own is now. Don’t waste it being angry about what you don’t have. Instead, look around and appreciate what you do have — your friends, your health, your breath.

But also be careful not to cling too tightly. Things change. So enjoy them fully, but let them go peacefully when it’s time.

🧗 Hard Times Are Training

Marcus faced wars, illness, and the death of people he loved. But he didn’t give up. He saw tough moments as a chance to grow in courage, patience, and kindness. He believed that how we respond matters more than what happens. That’s real strength.

如果你是全世界最有权力的人，你会做什么？

是追名逐利，还是享受快乐？2000年前的罗马皇帝马可·奥勒留，选择了另一条路。他信奉的是一种叫“斯多葛”的哲学 - 教人如何在困难中保持冷静、坚强和智慧。

🌍 无常的世界 vs. 你能控制的事

马可说：世界上有些事你能控制，有些事你不能。你可以控制自己的思想、行为和态度，但不能控制天气、别人的情绪，或已经发生的事。当我们忘了这一点，就容易痛苦，比如努力了还是没考好，或朋友突然对你发脾气。但如果我们只关注能控制的呢？比如尽力去做、从失败中学习、继续善待他人？那人生立刻就轻松许多。

🔮 别担心还没发生的事

你是不是常常担心将来会怎样？

“我会不会失败？”“别人会不会不喜欢我？”

马可说，不要让未来吓到你。等它真的来了，你就用今天的理智和力量去面对它。别让你的想象让你白白难过。

🕰️ 别卡在过去

你是否常常后悔或想要回到过去改变一些事？马可说：你无法改变过去，但可以决定从中学到什么。与其问“为什么会发生这种事？”，不如问：“我能从中成长吗？”这才是真正的力量。

⏳ 现在，是你唯一拥有的时间

你唯一真正拥有的，是“现在”。别浪费它去生气或抱怨你没有的东西，试着去感受你已经拥有的一切：朋友、健康、呼吸。

但也别太执着，一切都会变化。所以，请好好珍惜，也要学会放手。

🧗 苦难是成长的训练场

马可·奥勒留面对过战争、疾病，和至亲离世。但他没有放弃，他认为艰难时刻正是练习勇气、耐心和仁爱的机会。对他来说，“怎么回应一件事”比“发生了什么事”更重要。这，才是真正的坚强。

如果你想过得更轻松一点，不妨每天问自己两个问题：

1. 这件事我能控制吗？

2. 如果不能，我是否该学着放下？

   
   

就像马可·奥勒留说的：“不要让未来打扰你。如果它真的来了，你一定有智慧去面对。”