如何不把话往心里去｜🌱 You’re Not the Main Character of Everything

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Once upon a time, a man decided he wanted to learn how not to take things personally.

So guess what he did? He became… a football referee!

Why? Because in football, people yell at the referee all the time:

“Are you blind?”

“You ruined the game!”

“Boooo!”

But he wanted to stay calm, even when people shouted.

Why? Because in real life, he also got upset easily:

🛻 If someone honked at him in traffic, he felt like a failure.

📱 If someone looked at their phone while he was talking, he felt ignored.

🙁 If someone cancelled plans, he felt unimportant.

Sound familiar? If yes, don’t worry — we all feel that way sometimes.

But he learned two special strategies — like little superpowers — to feel better and happier.

🎈 Strategy 1: It’s Not About Me

Most of the time, what people do or say isn’t really about you.

• Maybe they’re tired.

• Maybe they’re distracted.

• Maybe they just don’t know how to say what they really feel.

💡So instead of thinking “What’s wrong with me?”, try thinking “Hmm… what might they be feeling?”

When a little kid yells “I hate you!” — do they really hate you? Nope. They just want to stay up a little longer! 😴✨

When we stop taking things personally, we have more space for kindness and understanding.

💛 Strategy 2: Sometimes… It Is About Me

Sometimes, when something hurts, it’s touching a soft spot inside us.

Maybe someone calls you “selfish”… and it hurts, because a small part of you wonders if it’s true.

That’s OK. What can you do?

• Give yourself some empathy: “Ouch. That stings. I guess I wanted to feel understood.”

• Be honest and kind: “Hey, when you walked away while I was talking, I felt a bit hurt.”

🌟 You don’t need to blame. You can just share your feelings honestly. That’s real strength.

🌍 And finally…

You are valuable. Always. Even when people say mean things. Even if someone ignores you. You’re still you. And that is more than enough. Just like a 20-euro note — even if it’s wrinkled, it’s still worth 20 euros, right?

So go try your two magic strategies. And remember: being kind to yourself is never a mistake. 💫

一个朋友想锻炼自己“不把事情往心里去”。于是，他做了一件很出人意料的事：他去当了足球裁判！

为什么呢？他说，因为当一个裁判会一直被骂：

“你瞎了吗？”

“你在搞什么？”

“你毁了这场比赛！”

他想学会就算别人冲他大喊这些，他也不会觉得受伤。因为在生活里，他发现自己太容易“玻璃心”了：

🛻 开车时别人在后面哔他，他觉得自己好像很没用。

📱 演讲时观众看手机，他就觉得是不是自己讲得不好。

🗣️ 约会被放鸽子，他会觉得：我是不是不够重要？

你有过这种感觉吗？如果有，别担心，这是每个人都会经历的状态。

于是他学到两种“魔法思维”，可以帮我们少受伤、多快乐：

🎈 第一种魔法：其实他们不是针对我

别人说或做什么，很可能跟我们一点关系都没有。

• 有人看手机，可能是在记笔记，而不是在不尊重你。

• 有人不理你，也许只是他今天心情不好，或者累了。

• 小朋友说“我讨厌你！”可能只是他不想睡觉，不是真的讨厌你。

✨只要你换个角度去想：“他为什么这样？”你就会发现：这并不是对你不好，而是他正在经历自己的情绪。

💛 第二种魔法：也许是我需要关心自己

如果有时候我们真的受伤了，那也没关系。

这时候，不要骂别人，也不要骂自己。你可以对自己说：

“哦，我好像很需要被理解。”

“我有点在意别人怎么想我。”

“我好像还没有完全相信自己。”

💡这时候你也可以勇敢说出来，比如：

“你刚刚看手机，我有点不确定我讲的东西有没有人听。”

“你走开了，我感觉我说的话对你不重要。”

不是去责怪别人，而是告诉别人：你此刻心里的感觉。这就是勇敢又温柔的力量！

🌍 最后我们想说：

你永远值得被爱、被尊重。不管别人说什么做什么，你的价值不会减少。就像一张20块的纸币，就算被踩皱了，它还是20块，对吧？

希望你试试这两种魔法思维，让你的每一天，都更轻松快乐一点点。