成长型思维：你并非被天生定义｜You’re Not Born That Way — You Grew That Way

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A story about how practice, effort, and mistakes help you grow

You’re Not Born That Way — You Grew That Way. Your brain is not like a rock. It’s more like… playdough! That means it can change. It can grow stronger. It can get better at things — with practice, effort, and the right kind of mindset.

This is called a growth mindset — the belief that you can get better at something if you keep trying.

✦ Are You “Just Born That Way”?

Some of you think:

• “I’m just bad at speech.”

• “She’s a natural artist.”

• “He’s smart, I’m not.”

But here’s a big secret: Most people who are great at something weren’t “born that way.” They practiced. They messed up. They tried again. And again. And again.

✦ Try Asking Yourself These 4 Questions:

1. What have other people told me I’m good at?

2. What have other people told me I’m not good at?

3. What have I told myself I’m good at?

4. What have I told myself I’m bad at?

These questions help you understand:💡 Are you believing in yourself — or just repeating what someone else said?

✦ Talent vs. Trying

Do you know how people really get good at things?

• They practice.

• They make mistakes.

• They don’t give up.

Even when it’s hard. Even when they fail. That’s how musicians, athletes, inventors — and yes, even wizards in books — grow their powers.

✦ What Scientists Discovered

A psychologist named Dr. Carol Dweck did a cool experiment:

• One group of kids was told: “Wow, you’re so smart!”

• Another group was told: “Wow, you worked so hard!”

Then they had to pick what to do next:

🧠 The “smart” kids picked easy stuff — they didn’t want to fail.

💪 The “hard-working” kids picked harder stuff — they wanted to grow!

Guess who did better in the end? The ones praised for effort!

✦ Why This Matters

When people say: “You’re so smart!” It can feel good… but it makes you afraid to mess up. When people say: “I’m proud of how hard you tried!” It builds your courage and confidence!

That’s why we say:

🎯 Praise actions, not labels.

💬 Focus on effort, not perfection.

✦ Growth Mindset in Action

Try switching your thoughts like this:

❌ “I can’t do this.”

✅ “I can’t do this yet.”

❌ “I failed.”

✅ “I learned something.”

❌ “She’s better than me.”

✅ “I can learn from her!”

✦ Final Question:

Are you stuck… because you really can’t do it? Or because you believe you can’t?

You are never just one thing. You’re a work in progress — like a drawing you’re still coloring in. So be brave. Be patient. Be kind to yourself. And remember:

Your brain can grow. Your effort matters. Mistakes are part of learning. Everything is possible.

🌱 送给正在长大的你 🌱

你有没有曾经对自己说过：

“我唱歌不好听。”

“我画画没天分。”

“我就是不擅长运动。”

或者别人有没有对你说过：

“你做不了这个。”

“你怎么这么迟钝。”

“你不行。”

你有没有想过，你不擅长的，或者你当下没做好的，只是暂时还没学会而已？

💡 什么是“成长型思维”？

成长型思维，就是相信：“我不是被天生定义的，我可以通过学习、练习、成长，越来越好。“就像种子不是一开始就长成大树，你也不是一开始就会所有事情。只要愿意朝着自己理想的方向努力，谁都可以到达那个理想中的状态。

🤔 四个小问题，来想一想你自己：

1. 别人说你很擅长什么？

2. 别人说你不太会做什么？

3. 你觉得自己做得好的是什么？

4. 你觉得自己不太行的是什么？

这些想法，可能来自爸妈、老师、同学，但也可能，是你自己给自己的小标签。

🎯 是“天生就行”，还是“慢慢变得行”？

比如你现在会骑脚踏车，是因为你一出生就会吗？当然不是！是你练习、跌倒、再站起来，一次又一次地练出来的。很多厉害的人，不是因为有魔法，而是因为他们一直没有放弃尝试！

👩‍🏫 科学家也发现了这个秘密！

有一位叫卡罗尔·德韦克的心理学家，她做了一个很特别的实验，她发现：

🙅‍♂️ 当孩子被夸“你好聪明”时，他们怕失败，就不敢尝试难题。

🙆‍♀️ 可是当孩子被夸“你很努力”，他们更愿意挑战困难，越错越勇！

✨ 所以，我们该怎么做呢？

1️⃣ 练习对自己说：“我还在学习这个！”

不要说：“我不会”，要说：“我还在练习”、“我再试试看。”

2️⃣ 赞美努力，不只赞美聪明

你可以对自己说：“今天虽然还没做对，但我比昨天更认真！”“我没有放弃，真棒！”

3️⃣ 把“失败”当成一次练习

失败就像游戏里的“再来一次”，不是“你不行”，而是“你快要学会了”。

🌟 最后，来问问你自己：

你是真的不行，还是只是太早就说：“我不行”？或者被别人说”你不行“？只要你愿意，你可以是画家、科学家、舞者、设计师、宇航员……因为你还在成长，永远有机会变得更行！

🌈 记住这个成长小魔法：“我还在学习，我正在变得更好。”